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07 March 2010 @ 01:48 pm
Is it okay to raise a child bi-lingual if your partner can't speak the other language?

I think its something that would be beneficial to the child, but also fear that it could become a block where one's partner feels left out.

06 March 2010 @ 05:38 pm
My 2nd grader's friends already have cell phones. I refuse to get her one yet, but this year seemed like the right time to get my 6th grader one. It wasn't even a week before she needed a lesson on texting etiquette. She was constantly texting at places like the dinner table.

It was amazing how quickly this obsession took hold of her but I also use my phone like a mad woman so at least I "get it". With a couple exceptions, most of my friends just a few years older don't use theirs nearly as much as I do. Most of the older generations in my family still have no idea how to even send a text and hate how the younger generation constantly has phones going off during family gatherings. The "generation y" line has been drawn. I can't wait for stories of how people had to walk uphill barefoot both ways in the snow to get to a library for a book report.

A quick search turns up endless articles blaming the constant texting, tweeting, facebook, and easily accessible information for creating a generation of self-absorbed kids with poor work ethic and no attention span now entering the work place, though they are undeniably more connected, more knowledgeable about technology, and better able to balance work and play. A previous post hit on the fact that the younger ones are apparently unable to spell because of all the txtspeak, but few of them seem to think this skill is even important anymore.

Are you part of this obsession? Are your parents or does it annoy them? What age is "too young" for a cell phone and do you enforce any rules like not using cell phones at dinner or during movies? Any other thoughts or pet peeves about this txting/pic messaging/tweeting/facebooking/cellphone obsessed generation?
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05 March 2010 @ 07:42 am
Kindergarten teacher giving kindergartners candy/sugary sweets on nearly a daily basis.
Yay or nay?
04 March 2010 @ 10:23 am
i am currently 18, and have moved in with my grandmother,72, to get to know her more.
i go to college full time, and work two part-time jobs (somehow my life isnt very busy)

my grandmother is an interior designer and has her own business. she was also married at 16 (she had a tough home situation) and moved a lot due to the army. because of this she is very demanding and controlling. which in my view is completely understandable- i am young and able to change, while her life is set in stone.

my problem is, she wants me to not date or have friends that are male, in the service, married, older, younger- THE LIST GOES ON FOR AGES. pretty much, her friends -although funny, nice, and interesting- are my friends. she is constantly saying to me, "when are you going to make friends your age?"

i hate to say this, but im so bored with my at-home life that i sneak out at night -not to party, but to hangout with people my age. i have a feeling one day ill get caught, but what would be my punishment? not go out- i already do that!

how would you handle this situation?

I am new to posting and this site.  I found this site only after trying to find a site I could cut and paste a story I started writing over 10 years ago, and did not want to take a chance in ever losing it.  I am glad to see a site with questioning parents!  So here is mine. 
Does it seem crazy to anyone else that when your child comes home from school, you look at their homework and notice that they are not correcting spelling errors anymore?  They tell me that as long as they can understand what is written it will not be marked wrong.  I have one child that will be graduating soon and another entering 2nd grade, I have been fighting the school for my older daughter for years and hoped and prayed that things would improve when my youngest started.  Should we not expect or better yet demand our kids learn the fundamentals of our language? 

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03 March 2010 @ 04:46 pm
My son is only two months old but already says: " Mama " , " Dada ", " No " , and " Hungry " , is that normal?
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03 March 2010 @ 02:28 pm
We are re-locating our (military) family from California to Georgia. For the move, I've made arrangements to leave our 15 month old with my mother-in-law in WV. I'll be flying out to CA for a week to pack everything up and the husband and I will be driving cross-country, picking up our son, and continuing on to GA.
My side of the family insists that I am being selfish and not thinking of my child, and that I should stay in WV while my husband makes the cross-country drive alone.
I've already made the decision to go, I'm just curious on what other people have to say on the matter. Is it right for me to travel, or wrong of me to leave my child- even for 2 weeks?
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03 March 2010 @ 07:38 am
A friend of mine recently posted on her facebook something like "This morning I caught my 5 year old killing bugs in the garden and had to have a talk with him. Please teach your children to respect life!"

I was surprised how much of a debate this comment caused! Some people told her killing bugs was an excellent way to teach "cause and effect," others just laughed it off and said "They're only bugs. It's not like he was abusing a dog." and yet others completely agreed with her - unless a creature poses a threat, you should teach children to respect it and leave it be, particularly outside.

I then saw this clip from that Toddlers and Tiaras show on The Soup. Not that the premise behind pageant moms isn't an entire debate in itself, but how do you feel about taking a toddler deer hunting?

Where do you draw the line?
02 March 2010 @ 07:47 pm
Hey I am new to this post and I wanted your opinion on this.
I have recently turned 20 and as a gift from my boyfriend he is taking me to a six flags out of town. So it will be an overnight trip. My parents believe that I shouldn't go because I shouldn't be sharing a room with a male that isn't my husband. I have decided that I am going, but my parents are mad and lately have hardly spoken to me. And I still live with them.  My parents are old fashioned and very conservative. I am not, I do have some conservative values but at the same time I am like the other people my age. How can I get my parents to understand that I am growing up and that I need to be able to do things on my own? 

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and a half. Ever since we became a couple I know that my mom has not liked it. She has never liked me having a boyfriend. (When I was 15 she said I could have a boyfriend but I couldn't date?) I feel like they still treat me like I am 15. I will be finished with college in 2011 (hopefully) and I hope to get a job a move out on my own (like everyone else). As a parent what are your views about this? How would you treat this situation? 
02 March 2010 @ 02:41 am
*shy wave*

I'm 19 years old, and I have grown up with babies being born left and right on both sides of my family. My younger brother is 18, and my sister is 13. Our cousins on our dad's side are 14 (well, 13, but she'll be 14 in 19 days), 12, 5, and 4. On our mother's side, we have a 12 year old, a 10 year old, a 9 year old, a 4 year old, a 3 (at least, I think he's 3) year old, a 2 year old, and a 10-month-old. (the 4 year old and 10-month-old baby courtesy of my 24 year old cousin, and my mom has 2 sisters and 3 brothers)

So because of all of these babies, I have become really good (well, I can at least feed them, change their diapers, and make sure they're safe--I'm VERY paranoid about small children and danger) at taking care of babies and small children.

Back last summer, the 10-month-old was only 2 months old, and his mother decided that I would hold him all the time. Most of my older relatives (like, around their 50's and 60's)--it was my grandparents' 50th anniversary--kept on telling how cute and right I looked holding the baby. This unsettled me. I had a boyfriend at the time, and I couldn't help but interpret the connotations as they couldn't wait to see me with my own children.

Now, I'm sure the connotations imply they'd love to see me have my own children when I'm considerably older, but at the time, I was thinking, "I'm only 18 years old, and my boyfriend is on the other side of the Pacific Ocean. I can barely take care of myself. What makes them think I'd be a good mother right now?"


On another note, I was staying with my dad's side of the family during Christmas break, and the cousins' constant fighting (well, the 14, 12, and 5 year old, anyway) over stupid crap was enough to drive me homesick. The 5 year old was fine--just put in the Transformers DVD and he was as happy as a clam. But his older sisters were insane. Their constant bickering made me decide at that time that should I ever get married and be a mother someday, I only want ONE child.

Have there ever been times like this that affected how many children you wanted in the future?
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