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20 November 2010 @ 02:30 pm
Leashes for kids? How do you feel about it?

(I don't think anyone here would think it's okay to tie a child to a pole while you go inside, haha. That's an easy give.)
Krystaljaleco on November 20th, 2010 07:37 pm (UTC)
Depends on the kid and the situation. If I have a runner who is more interested in that shiny thing over there than holding my hand than I am not against it, especially in a large crowd situation.

My kids safety trumps any embarrassment he or I may suffer.
MrBungled and Botchedmrflagg on November 20th, 2010 07:47 pm (UTC)
screw leashes. How about a shock collar.
JadeEJFjadeejf on November 20th, 2010 08:30 pm (UTC)
I have to use one now. I have two 15 months apart; the youngest isn't a big fan of being worn in a sling/moby/wrap, etc.; and the oldest is almost 18 months and prone to wandering. Bought it after we took them on a hike with a toddler camp group and my oldest slipped into a pond because she wouldn't follow my directions/stay with the group. Hauling a wet 16-month-old out of knee-deep water while wearing a baby made me appreciate the usefulness of toddler leashes. We don't use it super-often, and I never really thought anything about parents who did before, but if people want to judge me for keeping my kids safe, that's fine by me.
mamiecaissemamiecaisse on November 20th, 2010 08:41 pm (UTC)
I saw these for the first time while visiting family in the States this summer...the thing that struck me most was the WAY I saw them being used, with parent distractedly yanking back when little Timmy would pull or wander too far. I completely understand the desire to keep toddlers safe in that dangerous period between the development of mobility and the development of common sense, but for some reason seeing these bothered me on a visceral level that I can't quite explain.
.....vixenesque93 on November 20th, 2010 09:09 pm (UTC)
Depends on the kid. If they're prone to running off and I'm unable to catch them for whatever reason, damn skippy they're going on a leash.
susan stedenkosrs_breakfast on November 20th, 2010 09:12 pm (UTC)
I don't use one but I don't judge parents who do. They were a lifesaver (literally) when my cousins, one who has autism and one who has Down Syndrome, went through their bolting phase.
Stepharooimcountingufoz on November 20th, 2010 09:18 pm (UTC)
like, reins? My daughter wears reins all the time when we go out. She is 2. I'd rather that than her slipping out of my grasp and running out in front of a car.
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felizlahdedahguaparella on November 20th, 2010 11:06 pm (UTC)
They are fine.
Herkko Rosvo-Ronkainenmissingkeys on November 20th, 2010 11:15 pm (UTC)
I'm all for them. My son hated holding hands, but thought he was very clever wearing his monkey leash backpack.
Agent Zerouberliz on November 22nd, 2010 12:52 am (UTC)
Yes. Thank god for those stupid animals they finally attached to them. When I was a kid, they were just harnesses with no cuteness to them.
Herkko Rosvo-Ronkainenmissingkeys on November 22nd, 2010 07:40 am (UTC)

I know! Even when my first was small, the closest thing we could get was something that had velcro around both our wrists. Seriously, show me a toddler who can't open one of those! I only kept it on my daughter by pretending she was leading me around.

My son loooooved his monkey backpack. :)
☠IKA☠dreemerr on November 20th, 2010 11:34 pm (UTC)
I've used one for my son in certain situations. Like in the airport or a crowded place, where a stroller isn't logical.

I am a firm believer in them. When I was little (2-ish) my parents and I were walking through the mall, a man walk pasted us and snatched me...met my dad on the other end of my 'leash.' Probably didn't turn out so great for the guy, but I wasn't kidnapped because of it.
blenderx: dirty jobs o reallyblenderx on November 21st, 2010 03:26 am (UTC)
That's so scary! I can't believe someone would be so brazen. Thank God you were wearing that leash.

As for me, I don't use a leash yet, but you can bet I will. I have an 18 month old (who's starting to get bold) and twins due any day. That'll be 3 kids under 2 to mind, so you can bet I'll be using every tool at my disposal when they're all mobile and running off in different directions.
medea34 on November 21st, 2010 02:43 pm (UTC)
don't use one and silently judge people who do.

if my son won't hold hands, we carry him, let him sit in his stroller, or stay put until he is ready to hold hands and continue.

I will make a mental (but not emotional - it strikes a 'not treating kid's like human beings nerve) exception for day care groups.
L.purpurealuna on November 21st, 2010 04:10 pm (UTC)
I believe in them. I was an extremely fearful child with a strong "bolt" instinct at loud or sudden noises, sometimes too fast for my mom to catch. They also saved my fiance when he was little, he was a wanderer and one of 3, who had a bad habit of dashing off to go explore.
sweetbay3sweetbay3 on November 21st, 2010 11:33 pm (UTC)
I believe in using leashes for children who bolt/wander or who are a tad too short to hold hands comfortably. (Try holding your arm up for more than five minutes...add to that jerking on the arm. I've read that children can suffer inflammation from having to hold their little arms up so long.)

When my nieces were small (3-ish and 6-ish), we (youngest sister and I) used leashes in crowded situations: Maryland RenFair and downtown D.C./Georgetown when they came to visit. It was such a relief for both parties; they (felt) could explore reasonably; we knew exactly where they were. One girl, especially, had the habit of not paying attention to her immediate surroundings, including traffic (which to be fair, she didn't have to deal much with at home). (She was either introspective or "ooh shiny!") While we did get some judgmental looks, others came up and said they approved. In less crowded situations, they were required to hold our hands or hang on to the cart or the shirttail, etc.

I think it also taught/acclimated them to stay close. The mother (our middle sister) was happy at their changed behavior and that she had more freedom. (They also whined less; maybe because they were less uncomfortable and "independent".)

On the other hand, I do (silently) judge parents who push too-big children around. I know I shouldn't think so, but I feel they can't be bothered with their kids or to teach them to stay close. It also precludes the interaction we had with our parents; the conversations allowed by walking side by side.
ol_whatshername: stolen from Duckayol_whatshername on November 22nd, 2010 04:58 pm (UTC)
We always use our puppy back pack with the leash tail at the mall. I'd rather she wears that then get lost, hurt or stolen. Besides that is where we keep her sippy cup of water..ha ha ha

It is never ok to leave your small child tied up anywhere..lol What a weird thought!
tatredbutrflytatredbutrfly on December 6th, 2010 08:17 am (UTC)
I'd much rather leash my kid to me than to have them snatched or wander off and be lost or abducted
spicytoysspicytoys on December 7th, 2010 12:34 am (UTC)
I think it's dehumanizing.
Discerner of Truth 冬火 美: UW: Memories / Opinionsfuyuhimi on February 18th, 2011 08:09 pm (UTC)
Dehumanizing and eugh. I suppose that goes for 'no'.